The vows that are most preferred by the couples that I marry are shown below. They do not use the words death or obey, and have a more modern way of stating the traditional values.
The first part of the vows, the officiant is confirming the Bride and Groom commitment. The repeater vows follow, with the bride and groom repeating the vows to each other.
____________ will you take this women/man to be your wedded wife/husband? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor her/him and keep her in sickness and in health, and leaving all others keep yourself only unto her/him so long as you both shall live?
If so respond by saying “I Do.”
Will you join hands at this time, and face each other.